Why does it bother me so much that B ‘forgets’ every holiday…. Birthdays, Christmas, Valentines, Mother’s Day, Anniversaries… He remembers the days and everything but does nothing to celebrate. I have to do it all! I get all the presents for everyone including myself.
For example, it was valentines a few days ago and I made/purchased stuff for both girls and B and he got nothing for us. C asked me why her dad didn’t get her anything (making her a card would have been enough.) I told her that the stuff she got was from both of us; small unicorn stuffed animal, candy, cards that I made, and a new movie. He knows that she was so excited for “love day” she talked about it for at least a month. She made both of us and her sister two cards.
I know he is never going to change it’s been like this for years and I have talked to him and not much changes (he helped C get a birthday present for me a couple of years ago after SHE brought it up.) I know it’s not personal, but it still feels like he just doesn’t care enough to do ANYTHING.
Once after Mother’s Day he said not to get him anything for Father’s Day. He felt guilty for not getting me anything, but I can’t do that…If I could start doing that it would mean I DON’T CARE.
So basically my feelings are hurt, just processing it now and trying to reason with my feelings like I do every holiday….